- Who: The agency I’m working with places newborns. Just like women who get pregnant this agency doesn’t allow you to choose gender. I’m happy about that because I genuinely don’t know what I’d choose. I will have to answer some tougher questions as the process goes on (What races are you open to? Are there things in a birth parents medical history that I can’t accept? What if father is unknown? What if there was no prenatal care? Drug use? Alcohol use?).
- What?! : Yep. I’m doing it. On my own.
- Where: The baby will come from the US, there are 15 states that have agencies that work with mine, but anyone can find us on the internet and make a call. I had looked into international adoption but being a single woman making under $100,000 a year my only option was an 8-year-old from Bulgaria.
- When: Once my paperwork is all in and set (which should be by the end of March ’17) it takes 6 months-18 months.
- Why….
- Adopt?: I’ve wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember. I’ve been interested in adoption since college. I remember even talking with my HS/College BF about it. Being a teacher showed me how much I could love a kid who looks nothing like me. I don’t have a desire to be pregnant on my own, and doing so at 35 comes with its own risks.
- Now?: In my mind I’m still young. I have my own house, I’m in a great point of my career. I don’t need to follow a traditional order of marriage first then baby. This doesn’t mean I’m giving up on the love part, just changing the order. Like eating dessert first.
- Write A Blog?:
- I have always been an open book, this just takes it online. I want to be just right with keeping people in the loop. Don’t need to text update every little thing “Just got fingerprinted for the FBI!” or forget to inform someone and then show up to Christmas dinner rocking a Baby Bjorn.
- I’ve been googling phrases like “single mom adopting”, “single mom adoption” “young single mom adoption” (that one was a kicker because 35 is not considered young) and very few things are out there. The best part of the internet is when it connects you with people going through the same experience.
- To one day share with my future child. Their story will be an open book to them.
Adoptive Single Mom 